Prophet Muhammad's ideals in building a happy family

Prophet Muhammad's ideals in building a happy family

The Prophet (peace be upon him) is a good role model for us in all aspects of life. At present, the source of endless happiness, the family life is at stack for most people. As a result, many have become estranged. The family structure has started to break down. In this context, the 'ideal of the beloved prophet in building a happy family' is very important. The beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) loved his wives very much. He mingled with his wives and kept an eye on their emotions. Narrated by Anas (RA): The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘My favorite in the world is women, perfume and my eyes become cooler by praying. (Musnad Ahmad: H. 12319)

Islamic advices for marital life to be stable and fruitful

Husbands and wives need each other's loyalty, cooperation, sympathy, sacrifice, respect and love for a stable and fruitful marital relationship. The imprint of all this can be deeply noticed in the marital life of the Prophet (peace be upon him). The behavior of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was sympathetic and affectionate with his wife. Huzur (peace be upon him) did not make any mistake or shortcoming in cheering and respecting them. He also took care of small things in this regard.

Comfort: Hazrat Shafiyah (RA) was with the Prophet (SAW) on one of his visits. She began to cry because the camel she was riding was too slow. Seeing this situation, the Prophet (peace be upon him) came to her, wiped away her tears with his own hands and consoled her. (As-Sunanul Kubra, Nasai: H. 9116)

Praising wives: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not fail to praise his wives. On the contrary, he did not hesitate to praise in full assembly. "I have a great love for Khadija." (Muslim, H. 2435)

Hazrat Ayesha (RA) once said about her, "Just as 'chharid' (Arab food) is the best of food, so is Ayesha the best of women." (Bukhari, H. 3411)

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Drinking with the same vessel: It is narrated that 'Hazrat Ayesha (RA) used to drink from the part of the cup where the Prophet (peace be upon him) used to drink with his mouth. Prophet (peace be upon him) used to eat meat from the same bone from which Ayesha (RA) ate . '(Nasai, H. 60)

Bathing together: It is narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and Hazrat Maimuna (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon her) used to take a bath with the same mug and the same pot of water at the same time.

Behaving amicably and respectfully: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to treat his wives very amicably and respectfully. One day Hazrat Shafiyah (RA) came to meet Huzur (SAW) during Itikaf, and when she returned after the meeting, Rasul (SAW) gave her a little lead. (Bukhari, 1/273)

Making decisions based on mutual opinions: In our society, since women are not given special importance in the family, they are not consulted or tried to know their views on any important issue. In some cases, their views are accepted, but they are thrown into the dustbin. All important decisions are taken by the husband and Begum Saheba just listens and obeys - this is her only responsibility! But the condition of the Prophet (peace be upon him) was completely different. He took the advice and opinions of his wives not only on family matters but also on matters of ummah if necessary and implemented them. For example, after the treaty of Hudaybiyyah was signed, when the Prophet (peace be upon him) told the Companions to do stuff but they did not do any of the sacrifices and halaq (shaving of the head) because of the broken heart, the Prophet (peace be upon him) entered the tent in disgust and consulted with Hazrat Umm Salma (peace be upon her). According to her advice, when the Prophet (peace be upon him) performed his sacrifice and halak, the Companions also performed their sacrifice and halak. (Bukhari, 1/370)

Assisting in household chores: Men are not interested in helping their wives with household chores. Many men find it defamatory. In small matters they tend to completely depend on their wives. Alas! But the Prophet (peace be upon him) used to assist his wives in household chores. Hazrat Ayesha (RA) was asked one day, what did the Prophet (SAW) do in the house? Hazrat Ayesha (RA) said, "The Prophet (SAW) used to help his wives with household chores." (Mishkat, 3519)

In another narration, ‘The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to sew his own clothes. He used to repair his own shoes. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to do all the work that men do at home. '(Mishkat, 520)

Trying to make the wives happy: It is natural for a person to become tired as a result of endless work and reluctance to work. In this situation, a little entertainment is needed to get rid of fatigue so that the journey of life can be started in a new way. Since Islam is a religion inherent in human beings, it has opened up all avenues for peace and tranquility within the bounds of the Shari'ah in a lawful manner in order to satisfy the innate needs of human beings. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) himself entertained his wives not only in public but also in private and turned his family life into a flower garden free from all strife. For example, once some Abyssinian people were rehearsing a battle in front of the Prophet in the mosque, then the Prophet (peace be upon him) asked Hazrat Ayesha (peace be upon her) , are you interested in watching their rehearsal? When Hazrat Ayesha (RA) gave a positive answer, the Prophet (SAW) stood at the door of the house covering Ayesha with a sheet. And Ayesha (RA) stood behind the Messenger and watched their rehearsal through the space between his shoulders and ears. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) remained standing until Ayesha (RA) left on her own. (Bukhari, H. 5190)

Problem solving with patience and prudence: Family life, like normal life, goes through ups and downs. Even in the sparkle of words, one hears words that absolutely set them on fire. But if the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had heard any incoherent words from the mouth of a believer, he would have corrected him in a philosophical way without threatening or rebuking him, in such a way that he would be corrected and not be emotionally broken. One such incident is mentioned — ‘One day the Prophet (peace be upon him) saw  Hazrat Shafiyyah (peace be upon him) was crying. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked her why she was crying, she said, “Hafsa (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) called me a child of a Jew. Hearing this, the Prophet (peace be upon him) consoled her and said, what is wrong with this? Rather, there is an honor in it which Allah has given only to you. You tell Hafsa that my husband is a prophet, my father is a prophet and my uncle is a prophet. So what are you bragging about with me? Then he noticed Hafsa and said, Hafsa! Fear Allah. '(Tirmidhi, H. 3694)

Avoiding Unreasonable Doubts: Betrayal suspicions (such as extramarital affairs) in married life are a subject that is extremely painful for any husband to imagine. It is a sensitive issue that can make even a humble person angry. Sometimes he takes very terrible steps due to excessive anger. Then, the relationship is severed through divorce. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) himself faced such a situation. In the pages of history which is famous as the event of Ifak. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) heard about the slander of the Munafeks, he stood on the pulpit and declared, ‘O Muslims! Some painful things about my family have reached my ears. By Allah! I do not know anything about her (Ayesha) except good. 'Then he spoke directly to Hazrat Ayesha (RA) about this and said that such a thing has reached my ears about you, if you are free from this slander, then God will save you from this. And if something like this has happened to you, then repent and seek forgiveness from Allah. In view of this, Allah has revealed several verses in the Holy Qur'an describing the holiness of Hazrat Ayesha (RA). (Bukhari, 2 / 595-596)

(Based on Mawaiz Fakihul Millat)

Freedom in personal affairs: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to give wives freedom in private  affairs. Narrated from Hazrat Ayesha (RA), ‘I used to play with little girls. Next to the Prophet (peace be upon him) I had some girlfriends who used to play with me. When the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) entered, they used the veil and he would leave them for me so that they could play with me. '(Bukhari, Ha. 7130)

Protecting the privacy of husband and wife: There are many secrets between husband and wife. It is shameful in the society to reveal it. The Prophet (peace be upon him) is a great guide in this regard. He never made his family's faults public. He would find solution himself. Narrated Abdur Rahman Ibn Saad: Abu Sayyid Khudri said: The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said: The worst person on the Day of Resurrection will be the man who speaks secretly to his wife and then leaks (Muslim, H. 1438)

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not beat his wives: Beating wives has become a daily occurrence in our society. But it is a shameful deed. How would you quarrel with the person with whom you will spend the night! The Prophet (peace be upon him) was very careful about this. Narrated by Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), she said, ‘The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) never beat any wife or servant with his own hand. He did not take revenge on anyone for his own benefit except war. He would never take revenge except for disrespecting the law of Allah. '(Muslim, H. 2327)